TRIGGER WARNING: This email contains information and personal experiences about suicide.
800,000 people a year commit suicide. I was close to being one of those statistics. It's Suicide Prevention Month so I'm going to share what I know.
I founded Mindset Wellness first and foremost as a way to heal myself. Mine was not an illness of the body, but of the mind. A chronic anxiety that forced me to consider all options to cease the pain I was in.
Trauma that I dragged with me throughout my life, originally inflicted when I was 5 years old. I never understood how to stop mourning the abandonments I suffered as a child. That little boy crying out throughout my life.
I have looked many places for answers. I tried many forms of therapy. For years I looked for salvation in psychiatrists and pharmaceutical scripts. I tried performing on rap stages, and becoming the king of fast fashion. None of it worked. For me the answers came in the form of mindset. Affirmations, manifestations and natural plant remedies that rebalanced my mind.
I am a survivor and want to explain, as best I can, what I know about suicide and the thoughts that surround it, and it is my hope you will share, and spread awareness.
It’s important to understand people don't just consider suicide because they want their pain to end.
People consider suicide because they want to stop feeling like a burden.
They're tired of reliving trauma.
They can't envision a future they want to live in.
They don't believe anyone cares about whether they're alive or not.
They've made some mistakes they don't believe can be solved or improved.
They've experienced loss and can't find meaning to go on.
They feel they can't escape negative intrusive thoughts.
So what can you do if someone is having these thoughts? First off, speak with a mental health professional. My sharing my personal experience is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of a professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your mental wellness.
With that said, you don't have to be a trained mental health professional to Make Someone Who's Suicidal Feel Loved and here's how:
Empower them Remind them of their accomplishments, their strength, their positive traits, and how proud you are of them for fighting through this.
Be present Just having a loved one sit next to you and stay present till the storm passes (without any expectation of conversation) can be so comforting. It brings much needed safety.
Remind them how much you love them and that they're not a burden. So often those who are suicidal actually believe others will be better off without them.
Listen empathetically It is so important for someone who's suicidal to feel heard. The more you listen, the more you'll understand, the less alone they'll feel, and the more hope they'll be able to see in the future.
If one person can see a different path because of a kindness you showed, then the world becomes a better place for everyone.
We can all help prevent suicide. Simply dial 988 -The Suicide & Crisis Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.
If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately. If you are located outside the United States, call your local emergency line immediately.